How to bring up an old idea?

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I'm 29 and my wife is 26....we have been married since 2005. We had discussed the idea of bringing another woman to be a wife for the both of us. But things never came to be...but recently since an unrelated issue I've fallen for another girl. I don't want to leave my current wife...but have discussed with the new girl and she wants to be with me even in a multi family relationship. The problem is that the new girl is not bi and I don't know how to bring it up to my wife knowing she will most likely not get to be sexual with the new girl. Any advise will be greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance.

honesty is best

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I would think it best that your honest with your wife right away. There should be no secrets there. When you married her this was not yet brought up I imagine. I intend to be very clear with my first wife as to will she or will she not have any say in any second wives. My preference is that it is my decision solely and she should accept my choice as this is biblical. I will however take my firsts concerns under consideration in the interest of a happy family. But if you had entered the first marriage without any thoughts of being poly then would it be fair to your wife to make rules on the fly.

I would think you need to decide that your wife comes first. Be careful not to put the new gf before your wife because if you are greedy you may end up with neither.
When you marry it is forsaking all others....
I suggest not pursuading anyone to give up or do what is not desired but to find the right second. My advice is bring them together and allow them to negotiate the bond as they are involved the new gf may accept your wifes desires after meeting her. Also your wife may accept the new gf desires to please you. Give them that chance and if they can't come to terms then find another gf. Consider that the new gf may be trying to drive a wedge between you and your wife so she might have you to herself. These things do happen.

Next I would suggest you talk to the new gf about your wifes desires. The new gf may be open to allowing you wife to please her but no requirement of the new gf to please your wife.
Perhaps your wife and the new gf are willing to share you at the same time with no contact between them. In this way they are both knowing what is going on.

Women either want the bedroom to be
1. A seperate house for each wife
2, One house husband and one wife only in bedroom.
3, One house husband shared by all wives at the same time but wives not with wives.
4, One house all sharing in all.
The last is my belief of biblical polygany in that when husbands were away for extended periods the wives met each others needs preventing adultery.

Put your first wife first as it should be ..... let her and the new wife work it out .... if they cant find another second wife.

I'm a 49 yr old man looking to begin a family
If your legal age to marry and up message me at yahoo messenger id americanpolygamist or email americanpolygamist@yahoo.com
You will never know if we are a perfect match unless we chat.
I am very serious and very ready. Distance doesn't matter. Home is where you decide it will be.

I'm a 49 yr old man looking to begin a family
If your legal age to marry and up message me.
You will never know if we are a perfect match unless we chat.
I am very serious and very ready. Distance doesn't matter. Home is where you decide it will be.

The only place that I know

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The only place that I know of where the bible forbids women with women is in the NT

Romans 1:26-28

26,.....for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature:27 And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of women,.... KJV

I am not sure this applies to bi-women, where a man is still the head of the house, But I do think it applies to lesbians where they reject men.

Proverbs 18:22 Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord.

casting your pearls

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Apostle, I could not agree with you more, until they are ready to listen and learn, they will do as they please