Polygyny, the Koran, Sex Slaves and Slave Wives

Polygyny, the Koran, Sex Slaves and Slave Wives
By L. Tyler 08/03/08
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The Way of Jesus seen here is far superior to anything even remotely comparable in the Koran. Clearly Jesus' Way in these matters is far superior to the way of the Koran.

I saw the DVD a "Thousand Pieces of Gold" (1991 http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0100774/) recently and it brought to life a key polygyny issue and passage in the Bible.
" Ex 21:7 If a man sells his daughter to be a maidservant or bondwoman, she shall not go out [free in six years] as menservants do. 8 If she does not please her master who has not espoused her to himself, he shall let her be redeemed. To sell her to a foreign people he shall have no power, for he has dealt faithlessly with her. 9 And if he espouses her to his son, he shall deal with her as with a daughter. 10 If he marries again, her food, clothing, and privilege as a wife shall he not diminish." AB

From that we see that if those who own female slaves should either free them of marry them. Now we know from 1 Corinthians that it is God's will for slaves to get free if they can, but if they can't, then they should accept their slavery as their placement in Christ until they have the opportunity to be free.
"7:21 Were you a slave when you were called? Do not let that trouble you. But if you are able to gain your freedom, avail yourself of the opportunity. 22 For he who as a slave was summoned in [to union with] the Lord is a freedman of the Lord, just so he who was free when he was called is a bond servant of Christ (the Messiah). 23 You were bought with a price [purchased with a preciousness and paid for by Christ]; then do not yield yourselves up to become [in your own estimation] slaves to men [but consider yourselves slaves to Christ]. 24 So, brethren, in whatever station or state or condition of life each one was when he was called, there let him continue with and close to God." AB

A daughter who is sold as a slave and becomes the wife of the man who bought her, if she is a genuine child of God, is bound to the man who bought and married her by the marital Laws of Christ, found in Mat 19 and 1 Cor 7. After becoming his wife, the only option she has for freedom is the 1 Cor 7:10,11,12-15 celibate separation option as long as genuinely saved husband lives, or as long as her unsaved/unbelieving husband wants to live with her.

During California's gold rush days, a Chinese father in China sold his daughter, Lula, for a thousand pieces of gold. She was bought by a Chinese entrepreneur who wanted to use her as a prostitute in his brothel. What does that have to do with us today? CBS's recent documentary showed that there are at lest 27 million female and child slaves in the world today. A child or female slave can be bought in Haiti, Thailand and Sudan for $100 or less. Sex slaves in Tijuana, Mexico, can be "rented" and abused for $5 at time. A 15 year old boy on the sidewalk of Avenida Revolucion offered to "rent" his little 12 year old sister for sex for $5. A shy, quiet and timid country girl prostitute told me her pimp would let me have sex with her for $5. The three minor daughters of a beautiful Mexican woman offered their mother to me for sex for $5 in their little shop, and when they thought I was interested, the lovely woman got up from her knitting and her father approached me to collect the money. I walked away from them with a broken heart for that lovely young mother, I couldn't persuade the country girl prostitute to make a break for it to escape to freedom with me, and with all my might I resisited the urge to pound that 15 year old brother in to the ground. The world is a terrible mess.

So teenage Lula was sold by her Chinese father to a sex trader so his family would have enough food to make it through that winter. If all things had been done in a godly manner, the man who bought her and decided to keep her would have espoused her to himself in marriage, and if he married another, "her food, clothing, and privilege as a wife shall he not diminish." Of course that was not Lula's experience, though providentially she was purchased and freed by a devolted, compassionate and loving man who finally won her heart and her hand
in a good marriage.

With 27 million female and child slaves in the world, these truths and these scriptures should be taught along with the Gospel in the lands where slavery still exists, whether they be sex slaves in Islamic countries, Tijuana, Thailand, Haiti or Sudan. If someone is called in Christ and owns slaves, that person could follow the high road and give them their freedom, since the Bible makes it clear that is the preferred state. If someone is called in Christ and decides to keep his female slaves, in Christ he must keep his female slaves as his wives in polygyny. Even though they are legally his slaves, in the Kingdom of God they are his wives, and he is bound by the Laws of Christ to unselfishly and compassionately cherish them in Love:
"25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her, . . . 28 Even so husbands should love their wives as [being in a sense] their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself. 29For no man ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and carefully protects and cherishes it, as Christ does the church, . . . 31 For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother and shall be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.. . . 33 However, each man of you [without exception] should love his wife as [being in a sense] his very own self; and the wife should see to it that she is acting with respect and reverence for her husband [that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates, and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly in loving obedience to Christ, not because he has earned or deserves it]. [I Peter 3]"

What does it mean for a polygynous husband to Love his wives? Consider the following:
He should love her patiently and kindly, without envy or jealousy. He should not be boastful or vainglorious or haughty with her (1 Cor 13:4). He should not be conceited, arrogant or prideful; not rude or misbehaving; not selfishly insisting on having his own way; not touchy, fretful or resentful; and doesn't remember wrongs done to him (1 Cor 13:5). He should not rejoice at injustice and unrighteousness, but should rejoice when right and truth prevail (1 Cor 13:6). By the inner working of the Spirit of God he should be enabled to bear up under anything and everything that comes, be ever ready to believe the best of every person with enduring hopes under all circumstances, and endure everything (1 Cor 13:7; Phil 2:13; 4:13; John 15:1-5; Heb 13:20,21).

In my limited experience not only would most slaves want to be loved in this way, but most wives would also want to be loved in this way. There is more to the husband loving his wives, free or slave. In addition to the above, he is to unselfishly and compassionately cherish his wives with a Love that is free of favoritism, partiality and bias (1 Tim 5:21; James 2:1). Then there is the challenging part for the polygynist, the lovemaking part.
" Prov 5:18 Your fountain [genital] should be blessed , and rejoice in the wife of your youth. 19 She should be as the loving hind and pleasant doe [tender, gentle, attractive]--her bosom should satisfy you at all times, and always be emotionally transported with delight in her lovemaking."
"1 Cor 7: 2 But because of the temptation to impurity and to avoid immorality, each [man] should be having his own wife and each [woman] should be having her own husband. 3 The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights (goodwill, kindness, and what is due her as his wife), and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 For the wife does not have [exclusive] authority and control over her own body, but the husband [has his rights]; likewise also the husband does not have [exclusive] authority and control over his body, but the wife [has her rights]. 5 Do not refuse and deprive and defraud each other [of your due marital rights], except perhaps by mutual consent for a time, so that you may devote yourselves unhindered to fasting prayer. But afterwards resume marital relations, lest Satan tempt you [to sin] through your lack of restraint of sexual desire."AB
AND BE JOYFUL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
" 9 Live joyfully with the wife whom you love all the days of your vain life which He has given you under the sun--all the days of futility. For that is your portion in this life and in your work at which you toil under the sun." Eccles 9

Finally we need to be much in prayer for the 27 million female and child slaves in the world. There are thousands of east European sex slaves in western Europe. There are thousands of sex slaves in the big cities of North and South America, in the Phillipines, in SE Asia, in India and Islamic nations. Even though they are slaves, if they are the children of God, they still are called to live as God's children. What should a Christian sex slave do in Sudan if she is sexually assaulted?
"Deut 22:25 But if a man finds the betrothed maiden in the open country and the man seizes her and sexually relates to her, then only the man who sexually related to her shall die. 26 But you shall do nothing to the young woman; she has committed no sin punishable by death, for this is as when a man attacks and slays his neighbor, 27 For he came upon her in the open country, and the betrothed girl cried out, but there was no one to save her."

If she can't escape, if she can't avoid the sexual assault, if she sincerely calls out to be delivered, sincerely cries out to Jesus to save her from the attack, and no one saves her from the attack, she has done all she is required to do to be innocent and guiltless in the attack. We know that no genuine child of God will voluntarily continue on in sex sin, because either that child of God will repent of the sin in godly sorrow, completely clearing him/herself of the matter (2 Cor 7 & 2); or he/she will be chastened by God with weakness, sickness or the sleep of death (1 Cor 11:30-32; 5:3-5). Father doesn't let His children keep on misusing their bodies, because He paid a horrible price for them.
"15 Do you not see and know that your bodies are members (bodily parts) of Christ (the Messiah)? Am I therefore to take the parts of Christ and make [them] parts of a sex sinner? Never! Never! 16 Or do you not know and realize that when a man joins himself to a sex sinner, he becomes one body with her? The two, it is written, shall become one flesh. . . . 18 Shun immorality and all sexual looseness [flee from impurity in thought, word, or deed]. Any other sin which a man commits is one outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.19 Do you not know that your body is the temple (the very sanctuary) of the Holy Spirit Who lives within you, Whom you have received [as a Gift] from God? You are not your own, 20 You were bought with a price [purchased with a preciousness and paid for, made His own]. So then, honor God and bring glory to Him in your body."

So the Christian sex slave will not voluntarily and willingly let her body be sinfully used, but as long as she sincerely calls out to be delivered when sexually assaulted or abused, sincerely cries out to Jesus to save her from the sexual abuse/attack, and no one saves her from the sexual attack/abuse, she has done all she is required to do to be innocent and guiltless in the sexual abuse of her precious body. The apparently impossible Word to her, or him, who is a slave experiencing sexual abuse/attacks, is:
"17 Repay no one evil for evil, but take thought for what is honest and proper and noble [aiming to be above reproach] in the sight of everyone.18 If possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. 19 Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave the way open for [God's] wrath; for it is written, "Vengeance is Mine, I will repay (requite)", says the Lord. 20 But if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals upon his head. 21 Do not let yourself be overcome by evil/harm/injury, but overcome (master) evil/harm/injury with good."

So the abused/assaulted sex slave is instructed not to get even with the offenders, not to avenge him/herself, but is instructed to overcome the evil/harm/injury done to him/her with the good that the Spirit works and wills in and through him/her, leaving vengeance and just reckoning with Jesus. This is another example of how supernatural Life in Christ is, because for a sex slave to respond in this manner, while or after having been sexually assaulted or abused, is nothing short of supernatural. Yet that is exactly what we are called to.

"In this life we who are in Christ will suffer many trials and ordeals of body, soul and spirit."Yes, and all who desire to live godly in Christ Jesus will suffer persecution. (2 Timothy 3:11-13) . . . .1 Peter 1:6 In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while, if need be, you have been grieved by various trials, 7 that the genuineness of your faith, being much more precious than gold that perishes, though it is tested byfire, may be found to praise, honor, and glory at the revelation of Jesus Christ, 8 whom having not seen you love. . . . 2:19 For this is commendable, if because of conscience toward God one endures grief, suffering wrongfully. 20 For what credit is itif, when you are beaten for your faults, you take it patiently? Butwhen you do good and suffer, if you take it patiently, this is commendable before God. 21 For to this you were called, because Christ also suffered for us, leaving us an example, that you should follow His steps:
22 “ Who committed no sin,

Nor was deceit found in His mouth”;
23 who, when He was reviled, did not revile in return; when He suffered, He did not threaten, but committed Himself to Him who judges righteously; . . . 3:17 For it is better, if it is the will of God, to suffer for doing good than for doing evil.Christ’s Suffering and Ours 18 For Christ also suffered once for sins, the just for the unjust, that He might bring us to God, being put to death in the flesh but made alive by the Spirit, . . . 4:1 Therefore, since Christ suffered for us in the flesh, arm yourselves also with the same mind, for he who has suffered in the flesh has ceased from sin, 2 that he no longer should live the rest of his time in the flesh for the lusts of men, but for the will of God. . . . 4:12 Beloved, do not think it strange concerning the fiery trial which is to try/test you, as though some strange thing happened to you; 13 but rejoice to the extent that you partake of Christ’s sufferings, that when His glory is revealed, you may also be glad with exceeding joy. 14 If you are reproached for the name of Christ, blessed are you, for the Spirit of glory and of God rests upon you. On their part He is blasphemed, but on your part He is glorified. 15 But none of you should suffer as a murderer, a thief, an evildoer, or as a busybody in other people’s matters. 16 Yet if anyone suffers as a Christian, he should not be ashamed, but he should glorify God in this matter.
17 For the time has come for judgment to begin at the house of God; and if His chastening begins with us first, what will be the end of those who do not obey the gospel of God? 18 Now
“ If the righteous one is scarcely saved,
Where will the ungodly and the sinner appear?”
19 Therefore those who suffer according to the will of God should commit their souls to Him in doing good, as to a faithful Creator."

It is impossible for the abused/assaulted Christian sex slave to live like this naturally, in or by his/her own strength.Yet the Christian sex slave who calls upon Jesus for deliverance (Rom 10:13) and yields his/her own self and body to Jesus to be used as His instruments of righteousness - - - - - "Rom 6:13 Do not continue offering or yielding your bodily members to sin as instruments (tools) of wickedness. But offer and yield yourselves to God as though you have been raised from the dead to [perpetual] life, and your bodily members to God, presenting them as implements of righteousness. . . . 19 I am speaking in familiar human terms because of your natural limitations. For as you yielded your bodily members as servants to impurity and ever increasing lawlessness, so now yield your bodily members once for all as servants to righteousness (right being and doing) [which leads] to sanctification." - - - - will see Jesus by His Spirit work and will His supernatural work and will in and through him/her, no matter what the circumstances of their lives may be, yes even in sex slavery.

How do we know this? He has told us so.
***"John 15:4 Dwell in Me, and I will dwell in you. [Live in Me, and I will live in you.] Just as no branch can bear fruit of itself without abiding in (being vitally united to) the vine, neither can you bear [Spirit] fruit unless you abide in Me. 5 I am the Vine; you are the branches. Whoever lives in Me and I in him bears much (abundant Spirit) fruit. However, apart from Me [cut off from vital union with Me] you can do nothing."

***Phil 2: "13[Not in your own strength] for it is God Who is all the while effectually at work in you [energizing and creating in you the power and desire], both to will and to work for His good pleasure and satisfaction and delight. . . . 13 I have strength for all things in Christ Who empowers me [I am ready for anything and equal to anything through Him Who infuses inner strength into me; I am sufficient in Christ's sufficiency]."
***Gal 2:"20 I have been crucified with Christ [in Him I have shared His crucifixion]; it is no longer I who live, but Christ (the Messiah) lives in me; and the life I now live in the body I live by faith in (by adherence to and reliance on and complete trust in) the Son of God, Who loved me and gave Himself up for me.
***Heb 13:" 20 Now may the God of peace [Who is the Author and the Giver of peace], . . . 21 Strengthen (complete, perfect) and make you what you ought to be and equip you with everything good that you may carry out His will; [while He Himself] works in you and accomplishes that which is pleasing in His sight, through Jesus Christ (the Messiah); to Whom be the glory forever and ever (to the ages of the ages). Amen (so be it)."