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can wifes work and help with the day to day substance
Submitted by Anonymous on Thu, 11/13/2008 - 15:15.
Ive heard wifes can not work is this true, jackie and I both work we find it nessary to get substance , plus it seems to give life a little meanning. |
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Finances can be easier.
Polygamy allows women to have it both ways, if they so choose. My wife (I'm a monogamist) hates to work and wants to spend all of her time home with the baby and making home. But the Western Civ moment that put women in the work place has empowered women, educated them, given them independence, etc. That fact that women are in the work place pretty made it impossible for a man to support his family. A man has to earn twice as much if he is going to support the family by himself.
Polygamy allows those women that want to stay home, stay, and those that want to work, work. With two incomes, you can support several people. Even though I'm not a plig, I live like one. My wife's sister lives with us. We pay her to watch the children during our work day, then she goes off on the weekends to make time and a half as a nurse.
Everyone is exactly where God would be, if He were in their shoes.
do you realize....
Do you realize that referring to someone as a 'plig' is considered by some to be derogatory?
Is your use of this slang intended as derogatory?
I did know that "plig" is
I did know that "plig" is considered to be derogatory by some. I don't have a lot of patience for people that feel derogatory. I do, however, feel entitled to use the word.
That you question how I used it. . . . . when that means I need to improve my writing skills.
Do you consider is derogatory, or are you just speaking on behave of those that might? I'll say this about it, in my case, I consider it a title of heritage, sort of like, "American." I do not consider the word "Plig" to be derogatory, any more then I consider the word "American" to be derogatory. I'm not a polygamist, but I consider myself to be a "Plig" because I grew up in the culture, love the people, and love the richness of life experiences that the lifestyle can offer.
I think I subconsciously use the term to mark or label people. Not the Pligs themselves, but rather those that are offended by the word, and those that are comfortable with it. People's reaction to a word can reveal a lot.
For example, it has revealed certain sensitives in you, such as inner tensions and defensive structures that form the quality of a closed mind. Which probably means you are a lot like me. But after 14 years of posting on the internet, I've learned that feeling derogatory over someone's use of a word is a waste of time.
How are you, by the way? I'm new to the board. I've already gotten two proposals for marriage, and I've only be here to 2 days. What's up with that? I am unaware of the polygamy communities outside of the UT and AZ. I'm actually a little suprised to see families trying to be families.
I'm interested in people's motivation. The Mormon's live polygamy for strong religious reasons. It can bring many rewards, but usually it takes a lot of faith to get past of some of the first challenges. I'm interested in what motives people to dare such challenges. Is it salvation, heavenly reward, the kids, or just the benefits of the lifestyle?
Everyone is exactly where God would be, if He were in their shoes.
Dang
Dang - I just wrote a long reply and then my puter messed up and ate it.
In MOST families that I know (and it's a bunch) the women are well educated and have professional jobs. From nurses, to teachers to hospital administrators it would be difficult to pick these gals out.
It is an interesting double standard that is applied to plural marriages. In our modern society it is almost expected that women work, but yet mention the word polygamy and all of a sudden the man is REQUIRED to be the sole support of the family. Gads. What percentage of monogamous households have working women? What about the sheer about of single moms trying to do it all alone?
One thing I've noticed is that is most plural families it's more flexible. Ie. the wives can basically choose who stays home with the children and who works, etc. based on the current circumstances. Most children born in plural marriage are never put in daycare for a stranger to take care of them but rather they are taken care of at home by the people who love them most in the world
wives working?
First of all, as a Man, I want all the ladies out there to know what I have learned over time....
Being a homemaker is the hardest job on the planet. Where else do you work 14 hours, get no pay, minimal benefits, are on call 24/7 including holidays, are required to have and use management skills and be responsive to AT LEAST 3 other people? Gads, I forgot to mention, NO VACATION. Anyone out there want that job? Not me.
That being said, an ideal plural marriage in my mind has each wife working to their strengths. My first wife could not survive in the home. She got nothing done and was completely disorganized. Now my second is the MASTER MULTITASKER and IS organized and can do the homemaker job. We all agree that the homemaker wife needs an allowance (we do not call it pay, but that is because of tax reasons). She gets about $200 a month TO SPEND ON HERSELF. ALSO she gets at least one weekend off to do WHATEVER SHE WANTS. Often she goes to the library and gets books on CD, which she listens to while working her day job in the home.
First wife works and does that job well. Even though she is not as educated as second wife, she thrives in the work place and that is her strength.
Whether a wife works at home, or in a job is somewhat irrelevant. She works.
The KEY TO SUCCESS in this area is TEAM WORK and each wife working to her strength. She cannot forget her duties to husband and children, as is specified in the bible. She can work outside the home provided all wives see, together, that these obligations are met.
Easy enough, no?
Vacations are easy enough,
Vacations are easy enough, even with small children. One wife stays home with the children while hubby goes on vacation with the other wive(s)
Then later on the wife that stayed at home can go, instead. Etc..
Where there's commitment, trust and cooperation there is a way
One size does not fit all, either
As to the comment about being here 2 days and getting two proposals, please give us a well deserved break. It was funny to read, however! C];0)