Is this for me?
Submitted by Anonymous on Wed, 06/06/2007 - 21:13.
Hi all...my name is Emmalaieth, but I go by Emma. I'm 17 years old and have a almost 2 year old son and I'm 5 months pregnant. My boyfriend and I wish to marry as soon as we can, though we haven't been able to because I'm not 18. I will be 18 in four months. Though not married by law, we consider our selfs married by God. Both my soon to be hubby and I have recently became interested in Christian Polygamy. I was just courius to know if anyone had any information or support that they can provide to us. Thanx so much and God bless!,
Emma
Emma,I just wanted to let
Emma,
I just wanted to let you know there are still a lot of states that allow underage marrage: Arizona, California, Texas, Nevada just to name a few. As long as you have parental permission it's not a problem in those states.
Just a thought, not sure where you live but almost ALL states that allow it with parental permission.
Alabama: 18, 16 with parental consent
Alaska: 18, 16 with parental consent.
Arizona: no statutory minimum, those under 18 must have parental consent, those under 16 must receive approval of a superior court judge and parental consent.
Arkansas: 18, 16 for females and 17 for males with parental consent.[
California: no statutory minimum, those under 18 with parental consent.
Colorado: 18, 16 with parental consent.
Connecticut: 18, 16 with parental consent.
District of Columbia: 18, 16 with parental consent.
Delaware: 18, 16 for females with parental consent.
Florida: 18, 16 with parental consent
Georgia: 18 generally, 15 with parental consent, 16 without parental consent if pregnant
Hawaii: 18, 15 with parental consent.
Idaho: 18, 16 with parental consent.
Illinois: 18, 16 with parental consent.
Indiana: 18, 17 with parental consent.
Iowa: 18, 16 with parental consent.
Kansas: 18, 16 with parental consent.
Kentucky: 18, 16 with parental consent.
Louisiana: 18, 16 with parental consent.
Maine: 18, 16 with parental consent.
Massachusetts: 18 generally for first marriage, 16 with parental and judicial consent .
Maryland: 18, 16 with parental consent.
Michigan: 18 generally, 16 with parental consent. 15 and under with parental consent and probate judge approval.
Minnesota: 18, 16 with parental consent.
Mississippi: 17 for males, 15 for females, unlimited with parental consent.
Missouri: 18, 15 with parental consent.
Montana: 18, 16 with parental consent.
Nebraska: 19, 17 with parental consent.
Nevada: 18, 16 with parental consent.
New Hampshire: 18 generally; 14 for males and 13 for females, in cases of "special cause" with parental consent and court permission.
New Jersey: 18 generally, 16 with parental consent.
New Mexico: 18, 16 with parental consent.
New York: 18 generally, 16 with parental consent, 14 with parental and judicial consent.
North Carolina: 18 generally, 16 with parental consent, unlimited in case of pregnancy or birth of child with parental consent.
North Dakota: 18, 16 with parental consent.
Ohio: 18 for males, 16 for females. Parental consent needed for minors.
Oklahoma: 18, 16 with parental consent.
Oregon: 18 generally, 17 with parental consent. The consenting parent or guardian must accompany the applicant when applying for the marriage license. There is no waiver for anyone under the age of 17.
Pennsylvania: 18 generally, 16 with Birth Certificate and written consent of parent or guardian. Anyone under the age of 16 needs parental consent and the approval of a Judge of the Orphans Court.
Rhode Island: 18, 16 for females with parental consent.
South Carolina: 18, 16 with parental consent.
South Dakota: 18, 16 with parental consent.
Tennessee: 18, 16 with parental consent.
Texas: 18, 14 with parental consent. Texas Family Code
Utah: 18, 16 with parental consent, 14 with court approval or previous marriage.
Vermont: 18, 16 with parental consent.
Virginia: 18, 16 with parental consent.
Washington: 18, 17 with parental consent.
West Virginia: 18
Wisconsin: 18, 16 with parental consent.
Wyoming: 18, 16 with parental consent.
Is this for me?
Well, in some states you do not have to have permission to get married if you are pregnant. I guess you have already checked into that??
Yes I have checked (is this 4 me)
Yes I have checked into this. To my misfortune however, every state which seems to have allowed underage marriages only 2 years ago, no longer support these laws. We've consulted the internet for like every state and even went to some of the states that were closer by with my Mother, whom was willing to sign for us to marry. But every where I went it was declined. So I guess We will have to weight 4 more months...by that time I will already have had a second child without being married. It's so unfair. We want to do what is right and what is right by God, but the laws of man deny us that right. I think something should be done about that, considering I know at least 10 girls in my exact situation living in my hometown. Sorry, I know it seems I've rambled on, but thanx for your help.
Emma
Lost...If your mother is
Lost...If your mother is willing to sign, why cant you get married? Here in Virginia our old neighbor who was 16 and her BF who was 20 in the Navy was able to get married, GA and Fla your allowed to get married under 18 with parents signature, and same with alabama and missippi, (both my best friends were married at 16 and 17 in alabama and missippi).
I was 22 when I gt married so I didnt have this problem, but every state that I know of personally you can get married under 18 with parents OK.
In fact my neice in oklahoma got married last summer at 16 with my sister in laws OK.
hope that helps thats a few states I know for a fact you are able to get married under 18 with a parents signature.
God doesnt need that piece
God doesnt need that piece of paper from man to honor a marriage. Not all marriages are of God just because I preacher or a judge said I know pronounce you man and wife. Thats why so many marriages fail God isnt in them to start with.
APOSTLE
I like your Christ
I do not like your Christians
They are so unlike your Christ
Ghandi
Yes I have checked (is this 4 me)
I understand your frustrations but I am not sure how it pertains to polygamy?? Do you plan on finding a SW once you are of age and married??
Yes that's what I said in
Yes that's what I said in the first comment I think lol...But before we can engage in a plural marriage, we have to be married first. I have no problem what so ever with having sister wives, but considering we already have children together, we both believe it only fair that I be the first wife. Where we live, polygamy isn't to common at all, as far as I know. It's just that God has spoken to me directly about the subject, and I really feel that polygamy is the right thing for us, and my soon to be hubby feels the same. No one I know is involved in polygamy, and I'm worried of what my family will think, but I know that they will always love us no matter what. But how do I let them know that it's not just something dealing with sex? How do I let them know that it seems to be Gods will for our family and that it's all about love? I've been to many polygamy sights and it really hasn't answered my questions. I know what polygamy means, (one man with more than one wife at one time), but I want to know more about the life stile and basically how other people handle day to day life in a plural marriage. Also it seems that when my soon to be hubby decides to take a second wife, that we will have to move to find someone intrested and whom he loves and our family will love. DO you think we would have to go as far as moving? Or our their other ways? Thanx so much to all!
Emma
Yes that's what I said in (2)
God spoke to my wife as well about Polygyny. We had a sisterwife for almost 2 years. My family disowned me over it completely. They didnt care if it was my wife's idea or not nor did they care what God spoke. As far as moving you first need to find a single woman who wants to be in Polygyny which as most couples can tell you on this site is hard to the point of being impossible. Second of all you have this misunderstanding it would seem that marriage comes from that piece of paper. If that is your idea of marriage then since you can not have that piece of paper for wife 2 and wife 3 and so on does that make their marriage invalid?
APOSTLE
I like your Christ
I do not like your Christians
They are so unlike your Christ
Ghandi
That really makes a lot of
That really makes a lot of since. I haven't even thought about it that way. Of course the other wives would be just as valid! I would like to have some form of ceromony (can't spell lol) preformed though for us and the same one latter on for the second wife. We just want God to be involved in the actual marriages as much as he can be. I hope that I can prove your statement wrong, at least with our family. Our family doesn't want to be like other Christians, we wont to be like Christ. Thanx so much for helping me see things in a new light...it's not about some peace of paper, it's about the love and weather or not God is involved.
Emma
I like that
I like the way you said you guys didn't want to be like other christians but like Christ himself. You have a good foundation on your beliefs. I don't think it IMPOSSIBLE to find single ladies who are interested in poly, just difficult to find the right mix for you and your family. I hope you are finding some help here. Good luck and keep posting!
We agree
Hello and welcome to the site.
Just thought I would share a bit.
When We married we felt no need to involve the state and so found a preacher that was not part of a 501 c3 tax exempt church to do the ceremony for us. Most of the people that came to our wedding never even thought about if we did or did not get a license because we did not make any big deal about it.
Some people have said since that we are not really married, said we are just shacking up, and more then a few state licensed ministers would agree with that.
We have been married over ten years and feel just as married as anyone could be.
Congratulations and best wishes for your new baby and family. Jolene.
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