Could anyone help guide me through the darkness of more than 2 wifes please?
Hi Guys'
Long time no chat (from me) I guess the excuse of having no time would go over ok with those of you who have this life choice.
I am writing to ask a question of those whom have more experience than myself (3 years in a co-wife system)
I note that many of the family I see hear have more than 2 wifes? Is there a reason why most have 3 or more? (no offense to those who only have 2 like us ;)
I wonder and have discussed with my family that maybe we seek a 3rd wife as a 3rd would defuse the appearance of favoritism's?
Let me give an example: the 2nd wife who is still working through the stigma's of not being "married" like the first wife and social isolation of being second wife could not present a case of being hidden "ALONE" and therefore always second if... there was a 3rd wife who also was sharing this sacrifice and challenge together with her... and (then in theory a 4th 5th wifes etc.) so now the 2nd wife is really amongst others who also live with this challenge. She would feel far less isolated and alone in her feelings in such a huge challenge.
Is this one of the reasons for the 3 or more wifes?
Could anyone help guide me through the darkness of more than 2 wifes please
Thanks any support
God Bless
Shaun
The Blessed lord said "Holy is his Name"
So in his "Names" we rejoice and rest!
Now You Understand
In a multiple spouse situation, you get a real sense of the sacrifice of Jesus and how much he was willing to give to manifest God's love to the church. At the same time because of multiple spouses, there is no room for the strands of personal ego or self. When God is at the center, everyone (male and female) has to esteem everyone else higher than themselves or it will crumble.
T.D. Bennett
Ok Saun, I am going to make
Ok Saun,
I am going to make some assumptions here based on what you wrote.
From what I wrote it seems that the fundamental problem here is te perception of being less married because of STATE PAPERWORK. Am I right?
Well if so you all need to study this obsurdity STATE marriage is historicaly a new thing and all it is is a SEPERATE AGREEMENT inviting the STATE and HENCE it's COURT JUDICIARY into your FAMILY. This is BAD MOVE for anyone.
My PERSON is LEGALLY a DIVORCEE but my new woman is still LEGALlY SINGLE but she married me in a Religious ceremony, the Rabbi in my case not being REGISTERED TO PERFORM MARRIAGES BY THE STATE. (This is legal in Astralia but not in some STATES of the USA)
This is done for both the feeling of my new woman and subsequent women who join our family.
Regards,
Yitzchak Micha'el
The Price of Schisms.
Forgive me Shaun, but it seems as though you have divulged too little information for anyone to make a worthy judgement. I will have to glean everything from the few words in which you spoke. In your own words you use the terms, 'favoritism' and 'sacrifice'. -Respectively towards your first and second wife. I would suggest, as your rightly point out, that a 3rd or 4th wife would not make any difference to your current position with your 2nd wife. This may be to do with her perception and also concerning your treatment. We know, that when we look at the Scriptures, the Lord makes it clear that all wives have to be treated equally in all things, even if such and such a wife is 'disfavoured'. Though this may have nothing whatsoever to do with you, I would suggest that the principle still applies. In other words, does she -
1. Find that she is not publically acknowledged by you as being your wife?
2. Is she left at home in some circumstances or left out because it is still not known by others that she is your wife?
3. Can you be seen with her in public being intimate with her?
If the above is not a problem for either of you, then perhaps jealousy is the issue. This is something that will not go away quickly, and should be given time. Nevertheless, there should be no excuse as to why you and both of your wives could not discuss together how you all can overcome any of these issues.
don't be in a hurry
My gut tells me to agree with Friday and say: If any one is having problems with a wife or multiple wives then those concerns need to be addressed before more concerns are taken on. If a marriage with one wife isn't good don't take on a second. If there is tension in a relation ship of husband and two wives resolve that tension before taking a third wife, and so on and so on and so on. In all things follow the direction that God gives to you!
Definition of Marriage
Are you married because the State issues a license or did the man take the woman as his wife to love, honor, cherish, care for, protect, etc.? With that being said, if you feel it is the latter, then even the first marriage is not legitimate in the eyes of Yahweh unless the man took the first wife in that manner.
your message is really
your message is really cryptic "definition of marriage" i dont even get it. What do you mean the first wife is not his wife in the eyes of god? What kind of sense does that make? None.. exactly